Friday, April 3, 2009


This has been a hard week for me emotionally. It always is when Z does not behave in school and then I have to deal with it at home. I know that it is our responsibility as his parents, but I hate it. I hate the fact that no matter what I do he can't seem to stay out of trouble. He does not listen to his teacher and he does not know how to keep his mouth shut. Last week I was gone and he was in trouble every day, with his name on the board, with check marks and even hole punches on his tiger card. I thought maybe this week would be better since I was back home and everything would be back to normal and that would translate to better days in school. Well it didn't. I feel like every day I dread the boys coming home cause I can never ask, "How was your day?" and get a good answer from both of them. I hate spanking him even though I do. He is going to get a spanking today and he is grounded this weekend. Tomorrow we are going to an Easter egg hunt and now he won't be able to participate. Its days and weeks like this when I wish I could go to the doctors and get some antidepressants for me and some ADHD meds for him. But we still don't have any insurance. I also hate it when I let myself get into a bad mood over this and then I don't treat Marcus and Mark with the happy cheery mood that I would like to. It just sucks. And the thing that puzzles me is that when he is at home he is good. He listens and does what he knows needs to be done. Sometimes we have issues with homework but overall he behaves. Why can't he do the same in school? AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH I am so frustrated today. I hope with him being in his room, grounded, I will be able to focus and enjoy the weekend with Marcus and Mark. Can you please say a prayer for me and Zachery? Thanks


Marsamifw said...

I will say many prayers for you both. My hearts hurts for you. Been there - done that!

Laura Curley said...

Does Zachery have an IEP, does he get special education services? He needs to have classroom accommodations for his disability. He really can't control a lot of his impulsivity; research shows that when ADHD kids do something impulsively, the connection between the "thinking/logic" part of the brain and the "behavior" part of the brain is severed for those first few seconds. So, they do something as soon as it comes into their head then realize the gravity of their behavior later and are sorry. (Lots of ways to help with this.) Schools are federally required to make accommodations for kids with disabilities - request in writing for him to be tested by the school psych. That will start the process.

Read this: It's the U.S. Dept. of Ed's instructional strategies for teaching kids with ADHD. There are a lot of classroom and behavioral interventions there... Call for a parent-teacher conference and have the teacher integrate some of those things into the classroom. You can even do this before you go the IEP route (but the IEP will get him the best resources, and doesn't mean he will go to any special ed classes).

I'm praying for your sanity! And for God to show you how you can best help Zachery.

Angie Funches said...

Thanks Mom and Laura! I will look into it!